Sunday Reflection: Words
When
my son was around three years old, he was misbehaving, more than usual. It was
just one of those days for me. Clearly at my wits end, I said something like this to him. “If you
don’t stop behaving badly, I’m going to take you to the grocery store and leave
you there.”
Still
to this day, I don’t know why I said those words. It was a stupid scene and (obviously) still
haunts me.
His
face screwed up. “Don’t leave me,” he sobbed.
Of
course I cried, too, and comforted him. We probably comforted each other.
As
you may have guessed, I never left him at the store. I’ve never abandoned him, not
even when he made bad decisions. He even mentioned, twice as a teenager, how no
one came on the scene faster for him than I did.
The tongue has the power of
life and death, and those who love it will eats its fruit. Proverbs 18:21(NIV)
I work daily with
children whose caretakers tell them they are worthless. You know what? Those children
cannot be convinced otherwise.
The
words we say to others can mean life or death.
Let the words of my mouth and the
meditation of my heart be acceptable in Your sight, O Lord, my strength and my
Redeemer. Psalm
19:14 NIV
What are the
words you say? Are they kind and encouraging?
Blessings
Teresa
The old phrase 'sticks and stones can break my bones, but words will never hurt me' has always struck me as a cruel lie.
ReplyDeleteI wear scars from thoughtless and vicious words, and they still hurt years (sometimes decades) later.
So I try and be gentle. Even when expressing displeasure.
God spoke the world into existence, which proves how powerful words are.
ReplyDeleteIt's terrible what some people tell their kids. They don't realize the lasting effect.
Yeah, it is awful what is said to kids by some parents/guardians. Some people shouldn't ever be allowed to have them.
ReplyDeleteYeah I was pretty much made to feel worthless by my mother with nonstop criticism, complaints and passive aggressive behaviour. I can't stand the woman. Just my luck she's 88 and still going. She was big on the 'god is punishing you' thing as well.
ReplyDeleteYes, there is power of life and death in the tongue -- still we use it so often thoughtlessly. That's why self-talk is so important. How many times have you heard someone making a mistake groan, "I'm an idiot!" Making a mistake does not make you a mistake -- it merely makes you human and in a position to learn from that mistake. :-) Great post as always.
ReplyDeleteHow true. How careful we need to be when speaking to our children. I know I've said things in the past to my children in moments of frustration that have haunted them for years, long after I have forgotten what was said or what the child has done. Hopefully they have forgiven me.
ReplyDeleteAs a parent, I said some crazy things without thought of the impact. Fortunately God and my children changed me.
ReplyDeleteThat is so true. Words are more damaging than a blow to the body sometimes. I always made sure I never told any of my daughters that they were stupid or worthless. I always told them they could do anything they could put their minds to.
ReplyDeleteGood post!