I saw yesterday who I really want to be
More than likely if you are reading this, no matter how old you are
—someone, somewhere is older than you. Now, this genius statement wasn't to flatter you, but to encourage you to think. You might be old to someone and a youngster to someone else. Young or old, life is hard. And sometimes, we need a lended hand.
For instance, take the lady at our very small Wal-Mart yesterday.
I went there to pick up an online purchase. Before I could get to the counter, I noticed an older lady trying to sit down safely in a non-motorized wheelchair while keeping the attached shopping basket tilted sideways all at the same time. Her three leggedcane stood at attention by the chair and her purse sat on the floor. I said, “Can I help you in any way?” She said, “Yes, honey, you can hold the chair still until I sit down.” Then she sat and pulled the red shopping basket across the front of the chair, and tried to get comfortable. I picked up her purse and said, “You probably want this and here’s your cane.” She thanked me more than once. Our final contact was when she looked up into my eyes, smiled, and thanked me again.
I really wanted to push her around the store, but didn’t want to intrude. I didn’t know how much helping was enough and how much was too much. I wondered. She rolled around on her own doing a great job, I might add.
My response wasn't much, but enough. At least I came out of my self-absorbed world for five minutes to notice her.
Although, I am always glad to learn one new thing a day, I learned four things yesterday:
—someone, somewhere is older than you. Now, this genius statement wasn't to flatter you, but to encourage you to think. You might be old to someone and a youngster to someone else. Young or old, life is hard. And sometimes, we need a lended hand.
For instance, take the lady at our very small Wal-Mart yesterday.
I went there to pick up an online purchase. Before I could get to the counter, I noticed an older lady trying to sit down safely in a non-motorized wheelchair while keeping the attached shopping basket tilted sideways all at the same time. Her three leggedcane stood at attention by the chair and her purse sat on the floor. I said, “Can I help you in any way?” She said, “Yes, honey, you can hold the chair still until I sit down.” Then she sat and pulled the red shopping basket across the front of the chair, and tried to get comfortable. I picked up her purse and said, “You probably want this and here’s your cane.” She thanked me more than once. Our final contact was when she looked up into my eyes, smiled, and thanked me again.
I really wanted to push her around the store, but didn’t want to intrude. I didn’t know how much helping was enough and how much was too much. I wondered. She rolled around on her own doing a great job, I might add.
My response wasn't much, but enough. At least I came out of my self-absorbed world for five minutes to notice her.
Although, I am always glad to learn one new thing a day, I learned four things yesterday:
- I am not an island, so why do I try to be?
- I need to be more open to people helping me, too.
- I should not walk by someone who might need help even if I'm afraid they will yell at me when I ask to help.
- And, I saw yesterday the person in me I really want to be: A little fearless, Helpful, Open.
Comments
Mason
Thoughts in Progress
I'm afraid the lessons I've learned in the past few years have made me less open rather than more, which is unfortunate. But, right now, necessary for survival.
It's built into me...if I see a need, I can't ignore it. If someone gets offended I know it's not about me. If they are elderly, it's hard to accept that they can't do what they once did. Won't we all be there someday ourselves?
So I always think of the Golden Rule, "Do unto others, as you would have them do unto you".
Also, the verse saying we could be "entertaining angels unaware".
Also, Teresa please pray for me. I had an interview yesterday at St. John's in Springfield. I really need a job! God is good though...ALL the time!
CD
Reaching out can get you bit but is soooo worth it.
Mary
Wonderful post. :D
Trying To Get Over The Rainbow
I learned you are one awesome person!
I've learned that I can dare to be open with my writing and people are encouraging and supportive...including YOU. Thanks my friend :-)
Youngsters - I can be quick to interrupt and 'add my wisdom' - completely not necessary .. let them live and learn .. while I prompt and they evaluate ..
As you say - it is difficult to know .. how much help to give - another dilemma ..
growing old gracefully is an art & something I hope I've learnt a little about in these past few years .. we need to accept we need assistance sometimes! - realising what we can still do .. and what we can't ..
Glad you helped her .. and by telling us - perhaps we'll learn and help others .. Hilary
Have an extraordinary day!
Indie